Reading this item, you may already be aware of a personal struggle you have or have experienced at some stage in life.

Confidence and self-belief stem from positive thinking, talking to others, plenty of practice and in some cases, training. Although we aspire to have more of each, we often struggle to find them. Can these issues be overcome and how?

The level of confidence and the belief we have in ourselves can show in many ways affect our behavior, our mood and the way we carry ourselves. Individuals who lack self-belief and self-confidence will often find that certain areas of their lives will be affected. Relationships, career, lifestyle, and state of mind can all take a hit unless some action is taken to improve these qualities.

This week we will delve deeper into what causes lack of confidence and will discover how a life coach can help with confidence building. We will also discuss many techniques that can enable ways of boosting your level of confidence to feel more effective in life.

Do you lack confidence and self-belief?

 Suffering from low confidence and self-worth can be debilitating, but the good news is that they both can be overcome with the help of confidence coaching. When you start, the first thing to do is understand your current level of self-esteem. You then have a base to build upon, gradually increasing your self-worth and confidence over time until they become deeply ingrained facets of your personality.

Self-esteem and self-confidence are thought to be made up of several factors. These include physical presence, social confidence, status confidence, peer independence, and stage presence. Your behavior, your body language, how you react to different situations and how you speak can depict your confidence levels and the amount of belief you have in yourself. Confident people are typically more positive about themselves, whereas those who lack confidence often think negatively and could benefit from confidence coaching.

  • If you lack self-belief and confidence, you may feel: a sense of worthlessness
  • uneasy and shy
  • uncertain of what you want and who you are
  • negative thoughts about your abilities and yourself in general
  • you are unable to enjoy and relax in situations that you’d like to
  • as if you haven’t got a sense of direction in life.


On the other hand, if you are full of self-belief and confidence you may feel:

  • greater enjoyment of life in general
  • comfortable when facing new challenges
  • excited about new opportunities
  • confident about your opinions and ideas
  • a great sense of achievement
  • respected by other people
  • at ease in social situations
  • able to be yourself
  • sure, of yourself and what you want.


Both self-worth and confidence can be developed through coaching either by yourself or with a professional. It may, however, take some time to build upon your current confidence levels. The amount you can gain from coaching is usually very rewarding and is well worth the effort and time invested.

 How can life coaching improve my confidence and self-belief?

 Life coaches come equipped with the tools and techniques to help you develop your confidence and self-belief. Confidence coaching is designed to help you raise your self-image and create a positive outlook on life, starting from within. Life coaching may be able to help you challenge your beliefs that you have about yourself, boost your self-esteem and help you build a strong and positive self-image.

If you truly believe in yourself, so will others. Deeply ingrained confidence and self-worth will make life more enjoyable, exciting and satisfying.

Self-belief or self-confidence

 Self-belief or self-confidence are thought to be the way that you feel about your skills, abilities, looks, and behaviors. A person who has high confidence levels may learn things quickly, trust that they can complete tasks to a good standard or appear attractive to others. Self-confidence means to have faith in or trust yourself.

However, confidence can also be described as the way that we project ourselves to others. We don’t have to truly feel confident in our abilities, looks or capabilities to appear confident to others. Many people can portray an image to others of complete confidence while shaking with fear on the inside. This is a protection method used by many to cover up for lack of self-esteem or other feelings about themselves that they would rather not acknowledge or show.

 Self-worth or self-esteem

 Self-worth or self-esteem describe the way that you feel about yourself regardless of your looks, achievements, or other things you may feel confident in. It is closely associated with pride in your yourself and the amount of self-respect you have. If you have high self-esteem, you are typically happy in your skin, and you have a good opinion of yourself.

Self-esteem relates to the way we compare ourselves with others. This can cover many things such as whether we think we are as intelligent, attractive, loveable, successful or worthy as others.

Having low self-esteem can affect your mood. Feeling that you are worth less than others may lead you to strive for perfection but never feel you have achieved enough. If you suffer from low self-worth or low self-esteem, you may feel depressed, low, guilty, and you might try to prove your worth to others. You also may avoid situations that could cause anxiety or challenges you feel you cannot to cope with.


 Self-image can be explained as a mixture of the self-esteem and confidence. It encompasses the impressions you have of yourself, covering things like looks, abilities, skills, sex, age, successes, career, intelligence and more. It also covers the impression you have of yourself and how you feel about yourself.

 Confidence at work

 Being confident at work is crucial for career success. It doesn’t matter what work situation you are in – be it just starting out or running a company – confidence plays a massive part in the day-to-day activities in most occupations. Having a strong sense of self-belief can have a massive impact on your effectiveness and enjoyment of your job. It also affects how we communicate with friends and colleagues.

Being confident in the workplace enables you to be situationally proactive, assertive and focused. Having true confidence not only allows you to have a positive impact at work, but it also helps you make choices that will benefit your home life too.

.Imposter syndrome

Imposter syndrome is when you cannot seem to internalize your accomplishments. The persistent feeling of inadequacy may haunt you, even though there is definitive proof that your achievements are the result of hard work and talent. You may experience feelings of intellectual fraudulence and severe self-doubt.

You will feel like you are aren’t being a competent, successful individual, you are instead imposing as such. ‘Imposter’ feelings can come in many forms, but they tend to fit into the following three categories:

 Feeling like a fake

You may feel like you have deceived others into thinking that you are more competent than you are. You don’t think you deserve your professional position or success. This is typically coupled with the fear of being ‘found out’.

Statements that you may identify with:

I am afraid of the time when my colleagues discover my lack of professional knowledge.”

“I often come across as a more competent person than I am.”

Your success is attributed to luck

You may tend to feel all your success is down to luck or another external variable, rather than your skills and perseverance.

Statements that you may identify with:

  • “This won’t happen again.”
  • “I just got lucky.”
  • “This was a total fluke.”

 Downplaying success


Often when you achieve things that others congratulate you for, you will discount your success. You may feel that the achievement itself could have been accomplished by anyone.

Statements that you may identify with:

  • “It’s not that big of a deal.”
  • “It wasn’t that important.”
  • “The reason I did so well was that it was an easy task.”

The imposter syndrome is not an ‘all or nothing’ type of mentality. You may only identify some of the feelings in certain situations, or you may know friends or colleagues that exhibit some of these traits.

If you have imposter feelings, you can take positive steps towards changing them. A life coach can offer help and the motivation to get your professional life back on track.

The benefits of a positive mental attitude

There are plenty of ways to improve your self-confidence. Some may work better for you than others. The main thing to remember is that you need to truly believe in yourself to start making the changes you strive for. If you lead with positive thoughts, then you are more likely to accomplish your goals. This can be seen in medical miracles, successful sportspeople and in children who are usually more open about their self-belief.

Most improvement techniques for self-confidence are based on the power of the mind and body to work together to achieve the results you are looking for. A positive mental attitude will help you overcome many obstacles by enabling you to do things with the incredible power of your mind.

In contrast, a negative attitude will create negative actions feelings, results and low confidence levels.

The beauty of any technique based on a positive mental attitude is that you don’t need to know the outcome of an action to be able to do it, you simply need to believe you can do it and your body will loyally follow. This may not always happen straight away and will take a lot of practice but is a proven technique that can produce results.

“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re probably right.” – Henry Ford

Confidence building tips

Here are five ways to help build your confidence. You can use these between life coach sessions, or on your own.

  1. Try to remove negativity from your life

If you constantly doubt yourself, you might have to evaluate your inner circle of friends and family. It can be tough, but if people are the cause of your lack of confidence, you may have to let them go. Even a temporary break from a person that’s causing these feelings can offer a real positive step towards confidence building.

  1. Change your body language

You can slowly start confidence building by changing your body language. This starts with your posture, eye contact and smiling. A simple smile with your shoulders back emanates confidence. Smiling will not only make others more comfortable around you, but it can also make you feel better too. Try to imagine a person who is smiling with good posture – this person looks self-confident.

  1. Avoid accepting failure

Don’t give up and accept failure. You can find a solution in nearly everything, so why would you want to throw in the towel? Succeeding through perseverance can be one of the best confidence boosters.

  1. Be prepared

Whatever you are facing next, learn everything there is to know about the subject. If you are prepared and knowledgeable, you will be self-confident.

  1. For particularly tough instances, create lists

Sometimes life can get too much for us and makes it difficult to keep up our self-belief. If this happens, try sitting down and make a list of all the things you are grateful for in your life, and a separate list of all the things you are proud of accomplishing (no matter how small). Once complete, pin the lists up somewhere you will regularly see them. This will remind you what a great life you already lead – it can be especially powerful when your self-confidence is waning.


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